Being single even if you're already in a much
older age should not be approached with desperation, anxiety, fear and
hopelessness. There might be things that you need to examine why you are still
walking and waking up solo. Take note that there are
so many things that you can do in order to become a happy and fulfilled single
whether or not, that special someone will come into your
Be honest and real with yourself. Your honesty about being who you are as a
person can make a big difference when you deal with people and the realities of
the world. If people judge you or if others require you to do things that you
need to and you'll be able to handle these kinds of pressure with very little
amount of stress because you know who you really are as a person then you're
doing a great job.
Avoid hiding through this
pretentious and friendly mask just to make you look so good to everyone.
Just be yourself so
that you are a much more relaxed person when you are out in the public. People
try to be nice when they are out in the open with other people but if you're
acting too much in order to be nice will not guarantee that you could find your
special someone for a serious and lasting relationship.
Never act hopeless and desperate.
Avoid sending a message to another single that you eagerly want to be in a
relationship. Calm down even if you constantly hear your biological clock
ticking so loudly. Men are sensitive and they could read those signs that you
are in a hurry to be in a serious relationship in order to get married. Women
are also sensitive and careful with men who are recently divorced and want to
instantly jump into a relationship because his ex has already found
Avoid placing too much pressure on
yourself because being happy and fulfilled doesn't mean that you need to be
married. There are
many married people who are not even happy with their marriage life so
stop pressuring yourself. Take life as a wonderful blessing, whether
you're single or not. Focus on the things that you can contribute to the
goodness of humanity and life itself so that you'll be happy and be more
productive as well as attractive to anyone who comes to know
Do a thorough examination on your past
relationships if you ever had before. Search for certain reasons why they didn't
work and see things clearly and honestly. Learning from your past mistakes can
make you grow and you can look forward to a new and meaningful relationship in
the future. If you look at your past relationships that did
not work, then you need to accept and own half or part of the dispute and
disagreement that took place.
Take note that you had built your own experiences in
life and all you have to do is improve by trying to make gradual changes one at
a time. There were options that you could have chosen but you're the one who is
in control of the everyday choices that you make. It's not good to keep blaming
yourself also for the past mistakes that you have done. Everyone has his or her
own mistakes but the decisions and behavior that you had chosen will create
consequences so you also need to take responsibility for them.
Alter and develop what you're telling yourself deep
down inside. Avoid creating an image of yourself as a failure and erase
those negative thoughts that keep on lingering inside your mind. For example, if
you've told yourself that you're done with the hope of meeting your significant
other then as a result, you may no longer take good care of your physical looks.
You may just go to work or shopping without even combing your hair in a way that
you used to be.
So every time you look at yourself in the mirror, then
you'll end up hating your own image. Take note that your fixed and constant
thoughts including your beliefs can be very unhealthy because it's
self-destructive which you might not even be conscious or aware of. Avoid
telling yourself through these non-verbal communication that you're a loser
because you can create positive results if you change the way you see yourself.
Think of the positive things that you have done in your life and concentrate in
developing them. Be positive, accept and love the way you are as person.
It's not also advisable to change yourself for the
person whom you're currently dating. You're not being honest to who you really
are if you'll do this kind of false pretension. Try something different if what
you're doing is not working well but avoid being someone that you're not, just
to please another person. Determine what kind of person you're looking for as a
mate and place yourself in this kind of environment where these people generally
show. For example, if you're looking for a woman who loves sports then attend
To sum it short, if you can't meet that special someone
in your life whom you can love and love you in return, it's better and easier to
live alone than be in a constant battle with another person whom you'll refer to
as your significant other. You need to realize that you don't need to be in a
relationship in order to become whole because the most healthy relationship that
you really need is the one with yourself. Learn to love and accept yourself
wholeheartedly and you'll live as happy and fulfilled single.