How to Write a Breakup Letter Effectively
If ever you'll decide to write a breakup letter, you have to remember that it should be written in a nice, reasonable and meaningful way so that your partner who will receive it may accept the real message that you wanted to convey.
By writing a breakup letter, you can truly say everything what you're feeling without being interrupted. It is an excellent way for a person who has a difficult time expressing himself/herself to break the sad news to a loved one.
Most people use a breakup letter because they have many important things to say and want to make sure that they can say all those things. Other people know how they truly feel but when they try to put it into words, they have difficulty in putting them altogether and won't come out right. The rest are just afraid that they will get very emotional and can't even say a word.
If you are feeling this way then you may start writing a breakup letter to make it clear that you want to end the relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Things you'll need:
- Piece of paper or stationery with matching envelope
- Sign pen or any writing pen
1. Get a piece of paper and begin to write all the important things that you want to say to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Write everything first because this is not the breakup letter that you're going to send to him/her. This letter is only your draft.
2. Avoid using words that will give your boyfriend or girlfriend false hopes. You might think that it could help reduce the emotional pain as the result of your decision but this could stop him/her from moving on so be cautious. You only need to be frank but not being cruel, harsh or heartless in writing a break up letter so that it becomes clear that you want to move on without him/her in your life.
3. State the right reasons why you are finally breaking up with him/her. Do not leave him/her hanging by just wondering what went wrong.
4. Encourage him/her to move on too with his/her life since both of you will be doing this after the breakup. Tell him/her that in spite of what happened, you still know that he/she is a good person and he/she will find the right person for him/her in the future.
5. Write about the good times that both of you had shared in short sentences only. You can write longer sentences explaining the reasons why you would like to have a breakup.
When stating your reasons, never put the blame on him/her because it is useless and unhealthy for both of you. If you want to mention a few of his/her shortcomings and mistakes in the relationship then you can do so in a nice and mild way but include also the shortcomings and mistakes that you had done.
6. Apologize to him/her if you realized that you could have done better as a mate. Do not sound too emotional in the way you write your brief apology to him/her because he/she may think that you did something wrong and you're prompted by a sense of guilt that's why you're leaving.
Avoid giving the wrong impression so that he/she will not respond to your breakup letter telling you that he/she doesn't mind your shortcomings and mistakes and is willing to forget about them as long as you get back with him/her.
7. Thank him/her for the wonderful times that you shared together. You owe him/her that recognition whatever the circumstances leading to your breakup may have been. Make him/her feel that you're just thankful for those times. Wish him/her well, and then end the letter.
8. Keep the letter precise. No one wants to read a very long breakup letter, so avoid writing more than one page.
9. Do not send the breakup letter immediately after writing it. Try to read it again the following day so that you can review it and still make some changes if you want to.
10. Place the letter in the envelope, put the stamp/stamps and mail it.