Some people just like to have friends to talk online when they have free time after school or work while others really wish to meet a special someone whom they can have a long and lasting relationship with. It is true that many marriages came from online dating, some were truly successful and others were not, and well, an important factor of this has something to do also at the very start of how the couple had met online.
There are advantages and disadvantages in an online dating and I hope that you consider these 3 things before dating someone online.
1.) Define The Kind Of Dating Relationship You Want
Nowadays, there are many mature people looking for marriage-minded persons online, while young people just want a short-term relationship, so this depends entirely upon you. It is important that you search for dating sites that will suit your preference. There are many websites focusing only on casual dating while other dating sites are truly dedicated for marriage minded and long term relationships.
2.) Select The Best
You can browse each online dating site very carefully and sometimes you can judge the quality by just the way it looks. Yes, "you can judge a book by its cover sometimes". Other websites post very seductive women on their homepage and I think that this will give you an idea that possibly the men who will join in this dating sites are only those who are looking for casual dating.
Most dating sites will freely allow you to browse profiles without registering first so you can weigh whether this online dating site is the place where your time will not be wasted. There are really nice and wonderful online dating sites with amazing services and all you have to do is select the best and enjoy being part of their dating community.
3) Post Your Unique Profile
Writing your profile is truly important since this will tell what kind of person you are and those who will contact you may already have an idea about your personality. Your profile is your first impression and adding a photo will also be good thing so that your potential partner who might be browsing that dating site would be glad to see your completed profile. Well, some wish to remain anonymous at first and if you want to be this way then it is your choice, it is still fine.
My advice when contacting the interested person maybe either through instant messenger or an internal email via the site, you can just write a short and nice email as a start to send for the interested party and this is much better because you can describe a little bit about yourself and this can give a wonderful first impression too. It is advisable that you should take plenty of time to get to know the other person when you are dating online, trust your gut instincts and never rush into things which you shall later regret in life.
It is very important that you get to know the other person very well before arranging any offline meeting in person and if ever, it is better to do this in public places where you feel comfortable with, meaning, there are people around too, just to be safe. Dating online can truly be a wonderful, exciting and challenging experience if you are single and available.
How To Deal With Fake ProfilesFake profiles are also present in paid dating sites but they are more rampant in sites with free subscription. These fake profiles are usually made by foreign scam artists running the Nigeria scams all over the world wide net. They were not endorsed by Match or Yahoo, but these sites may make money from the fraudster subscription fees, so there’s not much incentive to investigate nor crack down.
Some online users say that Match is the one behind the fake profiles but there is no single proof that Match allow fake profiles as well as other paid sites. Paid sites also suffer from fraudsters like the Nigeria ones because they are losing potential customers due to tons of fake profiles. Some online users that are not new as members in these paid dating sites have even learned how to spot the fake profiles.
It was really a waste of their time to join in dating sites that were struggling to survive and compete against the big and popular ones. It is sad that other paid dating sites with questionable practices just to gain profit and they should know the impact of what their doing because it can immediately spread out online when online users get disappointed to their services. The management of these dating sites should remember that if one customer will be dissatisfied then these single people will speak to their friends and will soon find out that the same thing has also happened to them.
When you had joined any dating site as a paying member and discovered that the almost all of the messages that you received were made up of only “flirts” and “bookmarks” again and again from the same kind of people then you need to report this to the staff managing the site so that they will know that they have people who were there that only had fake profiles and were not that serious in dating online. Sometimes a few of these paid dating sites do not know about this and they need to monitor these kinds of activities that are going on within their site so that they won't discourage their single customers paying in order to join and interact with other singles online.
Other online users even say that they receive an email from a dating site that said they have 50 or more singles interested in them but when they try to check on their profiles, they only see 5 who had sent multiple "flirts" or "smileys" only. It’s deceptive for those members who had been paying to become a member in these dating sites and they should answer immediately the complaints that their online customers are asking.
They should have a 24-hour Online Customer Service for those singles that have different time zones and be there for them to provide clear and straight answers when any single member has any complain. They should avoid the word "scam" that unsatisfied singles will attach to their dating site.
If you're not satisfied and contented to the services offered by any dating site then you need to contact them and ask for a refund by sending them an electronic mail, by calling them or whatever you want to choose. The important thing here is that they need to hear the ongoing complaints of their members who had given their time, money and effort just to become a member to their dating site and meet their special someone online.
Sometimes these singles paid money to become a member and send messages, but apparently other online members only submit profiles and never contact them because they did not pay but were allowed to post online dating profiles on the site. The singles who could contact them are the members who paid and these paying members will get tired in becoming a member because they are only the ones who can send messages while most of the other members can't.
So they will tell themselves what’s the point of joining a dating site if they allow other singles who are not serious in paying a little sum of money in order to meet a special someone. These members are just lookers and sometimes you can even receive an email from the Nigerians fraudsters who will spend money hoping to gain more. They will gamble a few dollars so that they can scam innocent and new singles who want to date online.
Other singles experienced a situation where right before their subscriptions were about to expire, then that's also the time that they received tons of emails from desirable singles that they had never seen online. It will only take one instance of renewing your additional subscription and you'll be watching all of those attractive singles disappear one by one and after that, you will understand that you had been fooled and deceived.
It’s really bad that there are a few webmasters who would conduct business this type of way just to profit. These kind of people get also assistance when it comes to making members feel that there are so many singles interested at them in a dating site.
There are legitimate dating sites that want to offer good services but even how hard they try, there are still some complaints that they receive. Like for example, a particular dating site have plenty legitimate members but some of them sign up on a whim and then these singles realize after a few days later that they don’t think they are ready to date online then they just delete their profile even if they had paid the subscription fees.
They are just as “unavailable” as the free and phantom members. Therefore, it is advisable that if you are seriously looking for available singles who want a long-term relationship then try to look for dating sites that have good reviews. You can easily see these dating sites on search engines and compare the feed backs and comments given by actual users. So many singles had met their spouses online and these people can give good advice too when you are looking for trusted and affordable dating sites that you want to join.