Living
abroad with a foreign husband is truly challenging to any woman who had
dated online. Dating is a lot different when the two of you are already
living together. Online dating sites had been a gateway for many people
who decided to live together away from their
own country. There are many challenges that you'll be facing when you
have a foreign husband but both of will have a happy and fulfilling
relationship if you care, respect and support each other.
First
of
all, prepare all the necessary papers and things that you need to
bring with you like your birth certificate and passport. There is a
limit to the things that you can place inside your luggage so avoid
bringing plenty of clothing because you might pay additional fee for it
and it could cost a lot more. You may just buy some clothes on sale
when you get to the foreign country where your husband lives.
You
need
to simplify your life because you will be dependent on most of the
basic things that you'll need from your husband. If you come from a
third world country then this may not be difficult for you to adjust
maybe because you're used to it. The most important thing is the way
your foreign husband will treat you because it's easy to be practical
and live simply as long as you are treated with respect and dignity.
Relationships will only succeed when respect is present because it's
easy to love a person when you feel respected and appreciated.
Especially
in the first year of your marriage life, you are still adjusting to a
lot of things including your relationship with your foreign husband and
the people close to him.
There
is
a "possibility" that your foreign husband will not give you money
because every time you go out, you're always with him since you're new
in the country and he is the one who is spending for everything so
expect that you'll have an empty wallet until you can work. This may
not be true to all because some foreign husbands will still give you
freedom to spend what you like by giving you spending allowance every
month.
It could be in a very little amount but what is important is
that he respects and trusts you to buy the things that you like without
asking what you did with that money. The important thing here is that
he gives you financial freedom while you still have no work being an
alien to a foreign country.
Be
careful
of the way you speak especially when you have arguments. It is
better to be forgiving and calm because you are alone in a foreign
land. If he can hurt your feelings deeply then let him know about it in
a way that he will not get offended.
It is also not good to allow him
to continue in doing the things that you clearly know that it's already
abusive. Not all foreign husbands are abusive to their alien wives but
if you're unlucky to be married to one then go out and ask for help.
Try
to
gain friends in the neighborhood or talk to your family and friends
back home when you have time. You will be so lonely when your foreign
husband will go to work and you are left alone inside the house or
apartment. You can also take time to do things that you were not able
to do when you're still in your country like writing articles online,
painting, or any hobby that you would like to have.
Just
be positive if you are left in the apartment or house doing the
household chores while your foreign husband is in his job. If you are
used to
having a good job in your country since you had a higher degree and now
you're left alone in the house then just
remember the love that you have for your foreign husband.
Relationships
will only last if both of you are willing to make sacrifices within
your marriage. Take
a
big effort to understand more about your second language like
watching movies or shows on television. If your foreign husband can
afford to
enroll you in a foreign language class then this is better.
There are
now language learning software that you can buy online that can help
develop your skills. You can learn naturally and start speaking the
difficult words of the foreign language without translation or
memorization.
Think
of the positive attributes of your foreign husband so that you can live
with him happily away from your parents and friends as well as the
country that you had grown to love. Living in a foreign land away from
the things that you're so used to can be challenging on your part but
if he is there to support you then it will be easier.
Tip:
Remind yourself of the love that you have for your
foreign husband.
Always remind yourself that you married him for that reason.
Warning:
If ever you are suffering from emotional and physical
abuse
by your foreign husband, ask or call for help.
Remember that there are many people and different organizations who are
willing to help battered and abused women even if they come from foreign
countries.
