Reality Check: Singles And Online Dating Sites

Singles and Online Dating Sites

There are so many dating sites today. Is it really good to join these dating sites? If you think that you can easily find your special someone offline then it is advisable that you try dating not via online or through the internet. Why would you join these dating sites if you had already seen and met some possible or potential future partners offline?

Internet dating is not bad and joining online dating sites is not bad either as long as you choose those sites that do not post very sexy pictures of women and men who are almost nude. There are even dating sites that encourage illicit affairs. Try to avoid these dating sites that were mainly concentrating on their profits rather than the safety of their members.

If you are interested in participating in online dating sites, you can meet someone special in your life. This is true based on the millions of people who had posted photos after they had married from the people whom they had met through these dating sites online. You might tell yourself that you only want to try what really online dating is all about but the truth of the matter is that you would like nothing better than to find a special someone whom you can talk to, care for you and vice versa, be with every single day and be intimate with in your life.

You can find true love when your are dating online, but you have to be patient and honest with others as well as yourself. Being honest online while dating does not mean that you will divulge your personal information, that's not the point because you can't trust anyone on the internet unless you know them very well for such a long period of time through constant communication and among other things.

First, be optimistic rather than pessimistic. Think positive before joining these dating sites because if you keep on focusing on the dangers about online dating then you can't even start posting your dating profile on the internet. Just trust your instincts then you'll be safe. If someone whom you think is weird or you really don't like then just ignore or delete their messages. Second, you need to know what type of person you are looking for. 

Some Facts and Common Misconception about Online Dating

1. "People can easily misrepresent themselves and lie."

Fact: To misrepresent or lie is a decision. People can lie and misrepresent themselves in person if they really want to. You can learn how to uncover deception easily if you'll use your common sense, be open minded, read some online dating tips and not be in a hurry to have a relationship from a person who just emailed or contacted you through the dating site that you just joined into.

Give yourself time to enjoy knowing any of them and if you can feel that this particular person has a level of compatibility in the most important areas in your life like character, values, beliefs, intellect, sense of humor then you may focused your attention to him or her. Take note that it takes time to build a solid relationship and trust with anyone especially online. You will know that this person is serious when he or she will always give a special time to send you an email or talk to you everyday no matter how busy he or she is.

2. "Online dating is only for weirdos."

Fact: There are many couples who are happily married because of the help from well-established and reputable dating sites and these are normal people who come from good families. Surveys show that the majority of online daters are average people with at least a college education, a career and have a normal social life. Many are interested in a serious relationship that's why they wanted to join in dating sites that can offer them good services.

3. "Online dating is dangerous; I've heard too many negative stories about online dating."

Fact: Negative stories can happen to anyone and if you've heard them from other online users then they may have trusted anyone too soon when they had known them online or there are just a few people who are unlucky. You could also be in danger if you go to the bars, night clubs and free chat rooms that crazy men usually exposed themselves. Established and trusted dating services will try to do their best to ensure a safe and secure dating environment for all their members.

4.: "Online dating is only for losers, fraudsters, liars, and the desperate."

Fact: Online dating sites that are well known and reputable, like for example eHarmony.com and ChristianCafe.com may usually indicate that their members have college or higher degrees and earn average to above average income. If ever a few haven't finished their education but they were successful in the way they lead their simple lives.

What's really important when you want to look for a person is their kindness, sincerity and honesty and you can find these kind of people online or offline. The reason why many singles who join in decent and reputable dating sites and pay fees just to become a member is because they are in search for a serious relationship that may lead to marriage.

5: "It's not safe to meet strangers through these online dating sites."

Fact: It's never really safe to meet strangers anywhere especially in bars and night clubs. Some of these people inside bars and night clubs will just make you drunk and bring you somewhere else and this is a very dangerous scenario. Online dating sites will allow you to remain anonymous until you're comfortable enough to reveal a little bit more about yourself to the most suitable date or prospect and both of you can give time to know each other better.

6. "Online dating is for young or desperate people only."

Fact: Surveys show that the fastest growing age group in online dating is between 30-40 years plus. People at this age bracket are the fastest growing category in online dating because it provides them an easier way to meet potential mates especially when their career and other commitments tend to rise around at this time of their lives. But there still younger people who want to seek their someone special online, especially those who are busy and successful with their careers.

7: "Online dating is for singles who are anti-social and have trouble finding a date."

Fact: If you'll join a good and decent dating site then you can socialize with the members that you want to know even through the internet. Look for dating sites with members who are caring, loving, sincere, respectful and thoughtful who are socially active. Online dating simply offers available singles a tool that can save them time to meet like-minded singles.

8: "I would give me mental discomfort if my friends or family will find out."

Fact: If you will only join in well-established dating sites and you post your profile in a nice way with a decent photo in it then why would you be embarrassed? Everyone has the right to choose where they want to meet their special someone.

If someone whom you know was able to find you in a dating site then there is a possible chance that this person also wants to do the same thing since why would he or she be there in the first place? If this person is surfing online, then he or she is in the same boat with you but won't probably admit it if ever you'll ask about it.

9:  "I would be embarrassed to tell my friends and family that we met online."

Fact: You have no reason to be embarrassed if the person you had met online is respectful, kind and decent. What's important is that you can find someone who loves and respects you. Each year, there are thousands of couples in the world who had met online and are happily married and are proud to tell what dating site they had met. Some married couples even show up in television commercials.

10: "You have to be good with your spelling and grammar."

Fact: Most people are not concerned so much about how good you are in writing since what is really important is the thought, that what counts more. Conversation-style of writing just like day-to-day type of thing works better because it has a personal feel and it may give more information about the person whom you're communicating.

Just be natural and write down what you like you talk about so that you'll know if you'll have the same interests and get connected with the other person. You can also use a spelling checker that usually comes with word processing documents like Word.

If you're concerned about you're writing then you can also look for a free and safe software that you can download in your computer to check your spelling and grammar. Most online dating sites offer voice chats and video conferencing so you can have a choice if you want to look and talk to the other person.

11: "You have to be knowledgeable on how to use a laptop or computer."

Fact: All you have to do is to acquire the basic information on how to use a laptop or computer. A lot of people even your friends and members of your family can be of help if you decide to join in a dating site. Turning the laptop or computer on and off, making your profile and sending an email can be learned for just minutes and all you have to do is practice then you're ready to join for online dating.

Well established dating sites will make it easy for you and they will even guide you along the way. All you need to do is inform them that you're new to the world wide web so that they can also give some advice on how to protect yourself from fraudsters and scammers online that you might met or encounter just like in real life.

12: "It's expensive to become a member."

Fact: Many singles with the hope of finding their special someone whom they can have a serious relationship don't think of the cost so much. There are many good and decent dating sites that you can choose from if you don't like to pay a bit more.

A lot of singles were glad that they had joined a good and trusted dating sites since they were able to meet their partners in life. Online dating may cost much less than traditional dating since the other one involves costly dinners before you even find out if you have anything in common.

Knowing a person takes time but with the use of the computer and internet connection that singles already have then online dating could even save money. Online dating will let you find out if you have something in common with the other single then know each other to a reasonable degree that you want before the actual meeting.

There are many happy couples who tried online dating. It could be a wonderful and interesting way of finding a companion or a lifetime partner. If you are single and available, you owe it to yourself to try it. Trusted and top-rated dating sites offer free trials before you commit and they will also guide you along the way by making your online dating experience safe and enjoyable.