Our modern and busy world makes it difficult to meet a
wide range of potential partners these days that's why many singles try online
dating. For them, this is a better option than go to disco houses or bars just
to meet other singles elsewhere.
It is true that online dating can be a
disappointing, if you will not be guided the right way. Most professional and
busy singles want to experience positive results without taking too much risks
or wasting too much time.
If you're one of these singles then you need to select
the best dating site carefully. Visit first a few dating sites before selecting
the one you want to list on and like to become a paid member.
Check out how decent the site itself and browse some of the profiles and make sure that most of the single members are looking for life partners and not just a one night stand. There are some dating sites that concentrate on specific area such as casual relationships. You will know it, once you visit the site itself and view some of their profiles.
Take note that dating sites are not the same as chat rooms. A chat room is an open forum where people share various kinds of discussion mostly of common interests with other people. Some singles who had experienced taking time talking to other people using the chat rooms for romantic relationships had given them a lot of drawbacks.
Most dating sites will allow people to register for free but they also need to be careful not to disclose their personal information. It's advisable that you tell the truth with regards to your age in your profile. Take note that if you are a woman, other men prefer to date mature women so bringing your age under is not a wise option. The important thing is that you'll post a decent and clear photo of yourself and write your profile free of grammatical errors and misspellings.
Singles can contact other singles in various ways on most
dating sites. You can opt to select free contacts by just sending a short "hi"
or "hello" word to the one you want to exchange message to. It's also referred
to as a "kiss" from other sites and it will be read to the other single as, "I'm
interested, here's my profile".
Other dating sites will ask if you want to upgrade as a free member so that you can communicate as much as you want if you find someone interesting to talk to, or you can also buy stamps or coupons, which you can use to send emails without limitation with regards to how long it will be.
If you are interested to send someone an email, the recipient of this email will be able to reply you for free. In this way, there is a big chance that you could get a response if you take the first move and send an email especially if you're a guy. Some dating sites still follow the conventional way of dating where women will reply by sending a short "hi", "hello" or "kiss" which means that they are also interested if the men send them emails first.
It's like those old romantic movies and love stories
where men open the doors, offer chairs, do the paying when they have a date or
they take the first move or invitation while the women will just wait calmly and
patiently for them.
Other women will take the initiative and send an email or emails to the guy or guys that they want to meet so that they will get immediate attention while others prefer to wait and let the men send them an email first. If you decide that you want to send an email to a guy, he can't see your email address unless you want it to be disclosed.
If you send a hi, hello, or a kiss, the male recipient has to use one of his coupons or he needs to pay in order to reply to a woman but he can also say a simple "no thanks" for free if he's not interested or sees incompatibility based on your profile. Men also select whom they want to reply to since it can also cost them some money as well as time and effort. This is the reason why singles need to post good profiles in these dating sites.
Some women will take a plunge by engaging into a relationship on an extended email courtship. Many will do this even through a long distance relationship where they try to work out and observe if the man is worth meeting. Other singles view this as a waste of time since it doesn't tell them more about the person that they want to know better but for others it works so much better.
Other singles believe that it's easy to inform half-truths through writing especially if you're good at it but a lot difficult if you're facing the other person while talking to them. There are couples who ended up marrying the ones whom they dated through a long-time email correspondence. They had met their partners in person once or twice and found out that they're nothing like what they imagined and end up being miserable in their married life so you should also consider the pros and cons of online dating.
There are also honest ones who ended with the man or woman that they wished to marry but it could also take a lot of time knowing them if you'll only based it mostly through email communication. You need to talk to the man or the woman whom you had an online relationship with at least via video phones every now and then so that you can see the reaction when you converse to him or her. Always remember the saying that action speaks louder than words.
Don't waste your time with someone who isn't respectful when they send you their first email on a dating site. These are the kind of people who will not tell you the truth about themselves and you'll end up so discouraged for joining an online dating site. You can find rude and misbehaved individuals too just like when you're dating offline or not through these dating sites. They can also hide their identities and pretend that they are not married.
They might be short in height like four feet or seven and
they just tell you the opposite. Some could be obese or suffering from anorexia
while others could post pictures where he or she was still twenty years younger
than his or her real age.
The worst thing is if the picture that was posted belongs to a photo of a movie star or his friend or cousin. You should be extra careful when you're dating online. Do not be such in a hurry even if you're getting older or for whatever reason.
Take time to know the person better before committing to
a serious relationship online. There are also good singles who join in order to
meet the love of their life and start to build a family.
You'll be lucky if you could meet an honest man or woman online like this one. They could be few but they exist in these dating sites, you need to choose first the right dating site for you if you're serious to find one.
If you want instant results that other singles see more
effective is to propose a meeting immediately. You could ask him or her phone
number so that you can arrange a potential date, or arrange something through an
email communication.
If you think that the person wants to evade about meeting you in person, he or she might be hiding something from you. When a person may start to give you doubts why he or she wouldn't want to meet you, then you need to think twice. Always be cautious because after all, they are strangers.
It's important to choose a public place when you want to
meet somebody especially online. There's no reason to be worried or afraid about
meeting this person particularly during the day time. You're just in a similar
situation as if you'd met this person at any public place such as restaurants, malls, etc. The only difference is
that you already know some things about the person's background such as age,
marital status, likes and dislikes, hopes and aspirations, and among other
aspects in life that he or she was able to disclose to you.
It's important to set up a free email account possibly
from Yahoo or other site that you can only use for online dating, so that you
can easily delete that email address and this person if in case things will not
work out right for you. This person will have no way of finding who you really
are if you think that he or she talks and acts so weird.
Avoid giving your work or home address as well as phone number, until you've met the person face to face and feels that he or she can be trusted based in your own intuition. In this way, you are already assured to take the relationship further based on what you already had known about the person including that face to face meeting.
